DEBATE & CONTROVERSY
Samantha's:
For approximately three decades, scholars, mediators, and domestic violence victims advocates have debated whether mediation is an appropriate way to approach family law issues in situations where the parties have a history of domestic violence. Those debates have addressed whether mediation is ever appropriate where there is a history of domestic violence and, if so, when it may be used and how the mediation process can provide for victims’ safety and fair mediation outcomes. Their concerns generally fall into four basic categories. It's a debate loaded with mistrust between the genders, with activists on each side seeing the issue as a prime example of the other sex grabbing for power, either by inflating the suffering of men or ignoring it. Advocates for battered men cite academic studies asserting that women, although receiving the overwhelming share of victim-support services, engage in domestic violence as often as men.
Women's groups, and many domestic violence experts, challenge key aspects of those studies and insist that women are far more likely than men to suffer psychological trauma and serious injuries at the hands of their partners |
Anthony's:
Its his fault for doing this, it's her fault for doing this. Whenever domestic violence is in a conversation all you hear is the couple yelling at each other trying to place the blame on the other while they just sit back and receive all the heartwarming hugs from friends and family. At the end of this argument the person being abused gets justice and the abuser gets the punishment, but what happy ending does the child get. According to this article about the result of domestic violence involving child custody “ Depending on your jurisdiction, the domestic violence presumption could result in no access or limited access to your child if your spouse proves you have engaged in a history of domestic violence. “ In the result depending on the action taken place between the lovers in domestic violence you will have two option between you get to see your kid sometimes or you don’t see him at all. In a way the child within this is having a bad ending. According to the same article “ Even when the violence is not directed toward the child, but merely occurs in the presence of the child, courts still exercise extreme caution because of concerns that children who witness abuse grow up to be abusers themselves.” Even when domestic violence occurs around the kid it might lead to a future he doesn't want to follow, yet not being able to see his parents no more or sometimes might also affect the child, so if anything the child is having a bad path to go down when witnessing or not witnessing domestic violence.
A point of view about domestic violence can be about the true victim in this case. Thiers many cases where it describes majority women being the victims and men being the problem. A small statement in this article states “ Although women are the primary victims of abuse, men may be victims, also, of abuse.” This means that men are the majority person causing domestic violence, but somewhat victims as well. At first i actually believed that domestic violence cases only contained womens as the victims and never guys why is that. What happens when someone is abusing you or forcing you to do things you don’t want to do. According to the same article you not only tell him/her to stop,but you tell them i have rights “ to be treated with respect. All are created in the image of God (Gen. 2:26-27) and have value and dignity. You deserve respect regardless of your economic status, race, religion, or sex.” or “ You have the right to have privacy and space of your own. You don’t give up those rights when you get married or when you begin to have children.” Would these words help? In a way yes it would instead of telling him/her no or using violence against him/her which might increase the chance of more violence slowly claim your partner down, relaxing him of any stress or violent attention that he might have, |